My sister Linda is a bit like a character from a 1950's musical—a good girl who likes to sing and doesn't have time for rule breakers. Frankly, the world would be in a better place if she were in charge of things. Like world peace. 'That'll be enough of that!' she'd tell Putin. The Middle East would get such a scolding, they wouldn't know what hit them. Actually, all hitting would cease immediately.
So, imagine my surprise when I learned she was getting a tattoo. Not any old tattoo, either, but a dragon crawling down her right forearm. It's like she's joined a cult and this was her initiation. She's not a tattoo getting person. Yet, apparently she's been planning it for years. (She's careful like that.)
But now I can't help wondering what she'll do next. Shave her head and buy a studded leather jacket to accompany the gang tattoo on her neck? (She doesn't have it yet...I'm just projecting.) I picture her planning her gang's first book club meeting. (She used to be a librarian) There'd be a lot of shaping up and way less shenanigans once she got involved. (though Gangnam style shenanigans would be fine...she loves Korean dramas and the boy band, BTS.)
She often reminds me of Clint Eastwood's movie character, Dirty Harry. (As children who attended Scouts and Brownies, we memorized all her expressions, obeying the mantra, Always Be Prepared.) I particularly remember her narrowed eyes asking us Clint-type questions: 'Do you feel lucky?' Or, "In this world, there are two kinds of people, my friend: Those with loaded guns and those who dig. You dig.” Obviously, a tattoo was going to happen at some point in her life. Madam Librarian has flung away her disguise of well dressed respectabilty and shown us her leather wearing, possibly bald headed, dragon self.
I find myself wondering, does everyone long for another version of themselves? Do others feel threatened by that new version? (I feel threatened by this version of my sister. I took her out for lunch just to keep her on my side.)
But truly, must we continue liking the same things, holding the same convictions and maintaining the status quo so that others feel comfortable in their interpretation of who we are? I'm someone who does not like change. But it keeps happening, and life has a way of forcing me to adapt if only to keep my sanity. My husband loved change and grew quickly bored with life's daily routines. I'm really hoping that death has offered him some crazy adventures so when I'm with him again, we can take it easy.
'We're doing what?' I asked years ago, when he planned our camping trip through Asia and a hike up to Everest base camp. (Meanwhile, I'm challenged by hard pillows in a Canadian hotel.) But I adapted to his free spirit ways, because I knew that one of us had to have some spunk, and it wasn't going to be me.
After my sister joined a cult (kidding...just a tattoo, folks) nothing will surprise me anymore. My brother may decide to take up ballet. My sister, Joni, might choose to lie around for the rest of her life and do nothing, though I can't picture it. Her batteries will never die, and she will continue bustling around and helping people fix/clean/redecorate/stage their houses forever. In between all her travels, that is.
Maybe I'll surprise myself and do something completely unpredictable. But I doubt it. For now, writing a blog about my eldest sister is as close to danger as I can get. On that note, it's goodbye for now. I need to find somewhere to hide.
